Coronavirus pandemic doesn't ruin this couple's marriage plans, nuptials via Zoom
After putting off their wedding for nearly two years, Richard and Michelle Troxell, from Hereford Township, Pa., were determined not to let the coronavirus stop them from tying the knot. The couple turned to Zoom for help and said they had more family 'attend' than they would have if they weren't all quarantined.
When my wife and I stood at the altar and promised to love each other “for better or worse,” we had no idea how much of the “worse” times we would go through.
In each of our 12 years of marriage, there’s been some major, stressful event that has rattled my wife and me. It’s gotten so predictable that we’ve come to expect it.
“Wonder what it will be in 2020,” I said on New Year’s Day.
JOSHUA ROGERS: HOW TO STAY HAPPILY MARRIED IN TIME OF CORONAVIRUS QUARANTINE
My wife chuckled.
We didn’t even make it through March before a crisis hit (and I’m not talking about COVID-19 either).
More from Opinion
Our circumstances aren’t exceptional though. Bad things happen to couples all of the time because life happens. And in those times, my instinct is to fix, fix, fix (or at least try to). Thank God my wife has a different approach.
Raquel’s instinct is to keep trying to turn everything over to God during stressful circumstances, and I’ve gradually begun to follow her lead. Discovering God in the messiness of marriage is the only thing that allows me to address problems with God’s strength – not mine.
CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR OUR OPINION NEWSLETTER
That’s not to say that the only thing we do is pray together in our “worse” times. We lean on friends and seek wise counsel, and it has helped. But we need more than good friends and advice in the face of challenges. You and your spouse do too.
Making it through stressful events requires a commitment to intimacy, and I’m not just talking about emotional and physical intimacy. We’ve got to branch out into spiritual intimacy too.
For Raquel and me, that requires prayer as well as intentional reflection and encouraging each other with Scripture. (If you want examples of how we do that, there are several in my book, "Confessions of a Happily Married Man: Finding God in the Messiness of Marriage.")
CLICK HERE TO GET THE FOX NEWS APP
As we’ve fought alongside each other (and sometimes with each other), we keep coming back to Jesus and discovering, again and again, that God is still good.
He not only makes our struggles “better”; as we follow Him together, but He also takes our “worse” times and uses them to make our relationship stronger.